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Maranda
12-04-2007, 12:58 PM
Fear

As many famous men have said "their is nothing to fear, but fear itself" and though this sounds corny its true, because as is well known to most people, human nature is to fear what we do not understand, simple solution 'understand everything and fear nothing' this is easier than it sounds, because all you have to do is look at something that scares you and think to yourself "If I was this thing would someone fear me?" and the answer is always "no" because you know that in it's place you would not do anything to harm you, and this is not to say that one can be without fear and their by careless because many things do pose Danger, but they are not to be feared, but rather they are to be respected for what they are...

What is your greatest fear?

Michelle
12-04-2007, 02:17 PM
Hi Maranda :smile:

My greatest fear is flying :redface: I've always gone on planes since I was small but as the years passed it got worse and worse until now I can't fly at all :icon_frown:

Michelle xxx :smile:

Atlantis
12-04-2007, 04:52 PM
Good question Miranda.

My gratest fear is death. Yes death itself, when i imagine being death, got gooseflesh all over my body. Sometimes i am even afraid of driving a car!
I think i am afraid of dying, because their is so much thing in the world that i havent tried and experienced...

TzuJanLi
12-04-2007, 07:51 PM
Greetings..

My greatest fear is that mankind will ruin the planet for future generations.. future beings may not have the opportunities to experience the richness of this beautiful planet.. humankind may intervene in it's own evolution..

Be well..

Maranda
12-04-2007, 08:31 PM
Oh, People!

There is nothing to be afraid of.

Your thoughts and fears are not real they are free flowing and you can accept them and suffer or you can change them, substitute them for something you can live with.

That is creating your own reality with positive thinking.

We only fear what we don't understand, that which we have never experienced. Once you have experienced it, you learn that there is nothing to be afraid of.

I was married to a soldier who was seriously injured in Northern Ireland during the troubles in the 70s - twice! He taught me so much. I have visited injured soldiers in hospital who have had a leg blown off - I stood and watched them have wheelchair races with funny faces drawn on their stumps. They work hard and they play hard and we can lear a lot from them.

The only faith you need is the faith in knowing that no matter what happens you will be okay. And you will.

We are f.. ups but thankfully we are not in control of all of this. They, whoever they are, are looking out for us. We are sent here like we send our kids to kindergarten. And like anxious parents they are waiting just beyond the gate to help us and heal us and help us to rationalise our day.

Maranda
12-04-2007, 08:32 PM
Michelle,

You are not afraid of flying, you are afraid of crashing. Face that and remember, you are flying all the time by the seat of your pants every time you walk out your front door - and how often do you do that? How brave you are!

Maranda
12-04-2007, 08:33 PM
Atlantis,

I used to be afraid of fire. But only because I was on the top floor and I had three young children. If there was a fire how would I get them all out. Then my husband, the soldier - who was away a lot, showed me how to get them all out if the worst should happen. He listened to my fears. He didn't poo-poo them. I had a plan of escape. And I knew we would be fine.

It isn't death you are afraid of, it's dying. Live like you might die tomorrow. And by the time the event comes, you will be so exhausted that you will be glad of the rest. That's what I have done and continue to do. I'm going to die in my bed surrounded by my family and glad to do so.

Maranda
12-04-2007, 08:35 PM
TzuJanLi,

Mankind will not ruin the planet, they won't allow it - they'll ground us before they let that happen! lol

OceanWaves19161
12-04-2007, 08:45 PM
My greatest fear is being hurt badly again and being knocked down once more.

Alana

Maranda
12-04-2007, 08:57 PM
OceanWaves19161,

It doesn't matter how often we are knocked down. The important things is how often we get back up.

We really need to stop worrying about the worst scenario and start to expect the very best of everything that this world has to offer.

Atlantis
12-04-2007, 09:40 PM
I heared this once

F.E.A.R

False Evidence Appearing Real

quiet to the point :)

Oh and Maranda i think that is not dying i am worried about it is more what will happen after, if i would be 100% that i am going to be allright, than i would not have this fear.
It all comes down to faith on the end.

angelicious
12-04-2007, 10:06 PM
Hiya,

Right now, I can honestly say that I am fearless. In my view, it all comes down to how much trust you have in yourself, in others, and in life itself.:D

Maranda
12-04-2007, 10:07 PM
Atlantis,

"F.E.A.R - False Evidence Appearing Real"

I like that.

I had a wonderful 'image quest' while meditating. It went something like this....

I was a lovely mare in a beautiful pasture, running, mane flying. People all around having picnics and kids playing. And I was given them rides in a lovely little cart. Then suddenly everyone was gone and it was getting dark. I was getting cold and hungry and just when I thought I was all alone, a man came over the hill, put a blanket over me and led me back to a warn barn with a lamp burning. He fed and watered me and told me I could relax cause I was home.

"It all comes down to faith on the end."

Yes it does. But real faith is knowing that no matter what happens, you will be okay.

Roo
12-04-2007, 11:23 PM
It's all fine and dandy to go around telling people not to be afraid...but it doesn't really do much to change the feeling itself. Releasing fear begins by acknowledging it and accepting that the person feels it as real (no matter how irrational it is...fear is always real and seems rational to the person feeling it)...only then can it be reframed into reality.

I don't think I'll be sharing my greatest fear in this space...since I already know it won't be taken seriously....

nickmellor33
13-04-2007, 01:31 AM
Good question Miranda.

My gratest fear is death. Yes death itself, when i imagine being death, got gooseflesh all over my body. Sometimes i am even afraid of driving a car!
I think i am afraid of dying, because their is so much thing in the world that i havent tried and experienced...



this is my fear too only i fear mine is becoming a phobia, i also am sometimes scared to drive and i sit alone and when it comes into my head i cant get it out i sometimes get tearful thinking that i will die and never see anyone i know again ......its a horrible thought , and while i have no idea where its come from i am trying to stop it and believe what people are telling me in here it always helps....

Moonflower
13-04-2007, 06:45 AM
Hi Roo

I think you maybe underestimate the members on SF I have always found them to be very supportive & helpful.

Just my humble opinion.

Love & Light Moonflower x

It's all fine and dandy to go around telling people not to be afraid...but it doesn't really do much to change the feeling itself. Releasing fear begins by acknowledging it and accepting that the person feels it as real (no matter how irrational it is...fear is always real and seems rational to the person feeling it)...only then can it be reframed into reality.

I don't think I'll be sharing my greatest fear in this space...since I already know it won't be taken seriously....

Michelle
13-04-2007, 07:29 AM
Michelle,

You are not afraid of flying, you are afraid of crashing. Face that and remember, you are flying all the time by the seat of your pants every time you walk out your front door - and how often do you do that? How brave you are!

Maranda :hug:

You are right once again :hug:

Michelle xx :smile:

OceanWaves19161
13-04-2007, 09:48 AM
Lol I completely agree Maranda!

dreamer
13-04-2007, 10:04 AM
It's all fine and dandy to go around telling people not to be afraid...but it doesn't really do much to change the feeling itself. Releasing fear begins by acknowledging it and accepting that the person feels it as real (no matter how irrational it is...fear is always real and seems rational to the person feeling it)...only then can it be reframed into reality.

I don't think I'll be sharing my greatest fear in this space...since I already know it won't be taken seriously....

Hey Roo, share it and see what happens...you'll be surprised I guarantee.

My biggest fear is that I don't and won't ever know perfection, but I am perfection already and so is everything, so are you - you are everything, knowing this eradicates fear? Getting to know this is facing your fear, sharing your experiences is breaking your fear, breaking your fear is expressing yourself more fully, expressing yourself more fully teaches you that there is nothing to fear, knowing there is nothing to fear is perfection.....the irony is to know perfection is only a matter of realising that you and everything is already perfect, it may seem not but it is.

Maranda
13-04-2007, 11:32 AM
"I don't think I'll be sharing my greatest fear in this space...since I already know it won't be taken seriously...."

I'm sorry you feel that way. I take this subject very seriously. I have commented on what I have been afraid of and commented on how I dealt with it.

I also commented on how others may be able to deal with their fear. Unless I'm terribly mistaken that is called giving encouragement.

I meant no offence and I think you may have misunderstood the content of this thread.

My sincere apology for any upset I may have caused.

Moonflower
13-04-2007, 11:47 AM
Hi Maranda

I am sure you have not caused any upset.

Namaste Moonflower x

Maranda
13-04-2007, 11:51 AM
nickmellor33,

"this is my fear too only i fear mine is becoming a phobia, i also am sometimes scared to drive and i sit alone and when it comes into my head i cant get it out i sometimes get tearful thinking that i will die and never see anyone i know again ......its a horrible thought , and while i have no idea where its come from i am trying to stop it and believe what people are telling me in here it always helps...."


Let me tell you a story - the short version

Hubby injured in Ireland. Me new driver, the only driver. Had to take a trip up London for some reason. Got stuck at a very big, very, very busy round about. Cars beeping behind for me to get a move on. Hubby getting impatient. Me getting more and more nervous. Hubby lost it and said, "Just shut your eyes and go!" So I did! I mean it. We got to where we were going and hubby, white with fright, said, "I was only joking..!" We have had a good laugh about that over the years.

But on a more serious note... I still do it. In any situation that I feel hesitant or worried I think, "Just shut your eyes and do it!" I don't shut my eyes now of course but it does give me the push I need sometimes to ‘Just do it!’.

Maranda
13-04-2007, 11:57 AM
angelicious,

"Right now, I can honestly say that I am fearless. In my view, it all comes down to how much trust you have in yourself, in others, and in life itself "

I agree. I think I still have some work to do though... Cause I think my only fear now is losing any of my kids or my grandkids. Lost a granddaughter - I think that is the worst thing that can happen to me these days.. Losing a loved one.

angelicious
13-04-2007, 12:02 PM
What's to be sorry for?
In my view, I think it's fantastic to see there are various viewpoints on this topic whether it's sharing an experience of fear, or an opinion or view of fear itself. I don't think there's any need to make it seem like a right or wrong issue, or a counseling session either, but that's just my thoughts on it.

Ascended Master
13-04-2007, 12:22 PM
My greatest fear is that the world won't rid itself of negativity...
So that's why I'm here to help do it! lol
Love and light,
AM

Maranda
13-04-2007, 01:17 PM
Thought Is Creative

All thought, good and bad, is creative. Think on or worry about something long enough and you create it - or make a bad situation worse. The key to real emotional independence lies in knowing that at every moment in every instance you are creating your own reality from the thoughts you entertain. The more you acknowledge this truth the more power and freedom you will experience. And instead of blaming others or society for the things that go wrong in your life you now realise you are creating your own reality and therefore have the power to change it any time by any degree.

Begin to improve the quality of your life by replacing each negative thought with a positive one. Negative thoughts are not bad they are simply warning you about something that needs your attention. Take care of it and move on - if you ignore the cracks in the walls, don't be surprised when the roof falls in.

TzuJanLi
13-04-2007, 02:07 PM
Greetings..

Mankind will not ruin the planet, they won't allow it - they'll ground us before they let that happen! lolLOL.. "they"? who are "they".. we are our own masters. The universe has no issue with mankind destroying itself, it gave us the freewill to do so, if that's our choice.. i think it is wishful thinking that there are Cosmic babysitters.. the energy that is "us" will simply re-emerge somewhere else, in another equally free manifestation..

Be well..

Maranda
13-04-2007, 05:49 PM
"Cosmic babysitters.."

Like the sound of that. lol

neveragain
14-04-2007, 02:28 AM
My greatest fear is violent death by another's hand. I know it sounds a bit irrational, but I don't really fear dying any other way.

Roo
14-04-2007, 03:08 AM
I'm sorry you feel that way. I take this subject very seriously. I have commented on what I have been afraid of and commented on how I dealt with it.
I also commented on how others may be able to deal with their fear. Unless I'm terribly mistaken that is called giving encouragement.
I meant no offence and I think you may have misunderstood the content of this thread.
My sincere apology for any upset I may have caused.
Apology accepted...after all, it was really me upsetting myself anyway. I suppose that I could have phrased my response better as well. I meant that I wouldn't share that fear because I could see what kind of response I could expect. At the time, I perceived your responses as...patronizing....totally mistaking your intention. My bad.

Maranda
14-04-2007, 04:15 AM
Roo,

Share as much or as little as you are comfortable with. We are all afraid of something - even if we are just afraid for our loved ones.

GaiaPrayer
14-04-2007, 04:46 AM
I would have to say that my greatest fear is loneliness. As a single parent, my child is my one and only true companion in life and I know that when he grows up I will have to let him go out and live his own life. I just don't know where that will leave me.

Enlightener
14-04-2007, 09:21 AM
I fear no thing. Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real and is thus not a true entailing of ultimate reality. Fear is birthed through a limited perception of our ultimate reality. There is nothing to fear! Love is the one true reality. Love!

Enlightener

tiltjlp
14-04-2007, 10:56 AM
After 60 years, some which were extremely rough, the only fears left is worsening pain and losing what independence I still have. I dread the thought of ever becoming bedridden in a nursing home.

John

Maranda
14-04-2007, 11:25 AM
A word of caution: Your greatest fears could become a reality. I am in no way undermining your fears or mine. We simply need to be aware that we are creating our own reality from the thoughts we entertain. All thought, good and bad, is creative and tends to become a material thing. Think about and worry about those fears predominantly, and they become a self-fulfilling prophecy.


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Maranda
14-04-2007, 11:37 AM
[INDENT]Some books are so good and meaningful that you read them again and again. Primarily because you know the substance and content is so important that you need to be reminded of what it has to say. As A Man Thinketh, by James Allen is just such a book.

There is an oft-used expression

Starbuck
14-04-2007, 01:06 PM
I'm afraid of rejection - probably because I always have been - at home and at school. I know I'm probably creating my own reality now by avoiding people and the possibility of rejection, but at least then I know what to expect. The strange thing is that I now have a chronic illness which prevents me from going out and socialising very much, so it's almost like my body has created a situation where I feel almost comfortable.

I'm also afraid of death, the unknown, and losing people I love. That latter is the worst for me.

Oh and also afraid of water, and drowning..I have loads of dreams where water is filling up a room and getting out of control, and I'm stuck in it. It's invariably pouring out of a pipe or some sort of shower head. Even when awake I can't bear to look at water pipes or tanks.

I agree that the worst thing about fear is fear itself. I'm trying to change my reality by addressing my thoughts, but I think I have a lot of baggage to get through.

Love to all.

Maranda
14-04-2007, 02:24 PM
Starbuck,

If I may.... Yes I believe people can and do unconsciously make themselves ill. I knew a young hairdresser who wanted to be a special effects and makeup artist. She was encouraged to become a hairdresser 'for the experience'. She came out in a rash all over her body and could not continue to work with clients. Something in her was reacting to the fact that it wasn't really what she wanted to do.

"I'm also afraid of death, the unknown, and losing people I love. That latter is the worst for me."

My intention here is to share with you what I have learned in the hope that it might in some small way reduce your fear of death. I'm not afraid. I'm going to lay down and simply close my eyes like the old Indians used to, and like some Zen Masters do. I have talked to so many people, priests and nuns on retreat - I'm not a religious person - I have talked to many like minded people, like there is on this forum, and enough have told me that they are not afraid of death and that helps me to be not afraid.

Have you ever tried an image quest? It's quite simple. Sit quietly like in meditation and imagine something, person, animal whatever, to represent you. Accept the first image that comes to you. then ask it to show you where you are in your life right now. Take gentle note of what you get. Then ask it to show you your life in say five or ten or twenty years. Take note, write about it later. And write about how it made you feel. Don't be discouraged if it doesn't work right away, your brain needs time to figure out what it is you are trying to do.

Be kind and gentle to yourself and expect the very best that this world has to offer and know that you deserve it. And you do. We all do. We can do nothing wrong, we were sent here to learn and gain spiritual experiences and enlightenment. No matter what has happened in your life, it happened for a reason and you learned from it. Go on living and learning, that's why you are here.

"..I have loads of dreams where water is filling up a room and getting out of control, and I'm stuck in it.."

Admittedly water in a dream is not so good unless it is very clear and we feel comfortable and not afraid when we awake. But if we can learn to control our thoughts then we can certainly control our dreams.

Have you ever tried to change a dream you are dreaming? It's something we parents do with a child who has had a bad dream. We tell them that next time they have a bad dream they are to think of mum or dad being there and they will have nothing to worry about. Try to change the style of the dream, try to make the water stop or try to have it flow away down a nice clean drain. Hopefully taking all your worries with it.

"I agree that the worst thing about fear is fear itself. I'm trying to change my reality by addressing my thoughts, but I think I have a lot of baggage to get through."

If I may... Forget about 'getting through the baggage' and simply lay it down like excess baggage that you are not prepared to pay another dime for.

Be kind and gentle with yourself - don't beat yourself up. And remember, baby step. Even the biggest plans must be worked out in small steps.

Take care of you and stay above the battles.

Your post brought back some old memories and gave me lots to think about and lots to be thankful for.

Starbuck
14-04-2007, 03:32 PM
Hi Maranda.

Thanks for taking the time to respond...I appreciate it :)

I will definitely follow your suggestion for meditation. I do meditate when I can, but find it difficult to relax as I'm quite an anxious person and my thoughts seem to be constantly flickering about. I'm working on focussing more and hopefully I will get more out of it.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts, they have helped. I'm glad that you've moved on in yourself and feel much more positive and reassured. I agree that every small step is a step forward, more knowledge and more gain..

Best wishes to you.

Octarine
14-04-2007, 04:15 PM
Hola,

This threas is really interesting and with good insights. Now I would really like to know your opinion.
My greatest fear is that I won't be able to control my fear of anything and end up manifesting exactly what I fear.
I normally don't even speak of my fears out of fear of manifesting them.

Thank you,

Octarine