sesheta
18-01-2012, 07:11 AM
I wasn't sure which forum to post this on, but this seemed like the most logical choice!
The issue I want to address is this: Does anyone else find themselves being disrespected, or treated unkindly, because they are skinny? I have always been "petite" - about 5 foot 4, and have never in my life weighed more than 125 pounds soaking wet (I battled & survived cancer over a decade ago and, since then, have not weighed more than 115...)
Anyway, my point being that, throughout my life, I have heard all kinds of condescending, petty comments from other females (including friends) due to this. If I went shopping with them, I heard things like "oh, yeah, well YOU could wear that..."(very sarcastic). If I wear something form-fitting, it's comments like "must be nice to be able to wear that!"
Heaven forbid the conversation ever turns to food, diet or exercise! If I make any comment at all, it instantly gets turned on me with things like "oh, this from the person who doesn't HAVE a weight problem!"
It's like they blame me for not being overweight....I am lucky enough to have had parents who were never overweight, so I think part of it is genetics...I have a high metabolism, so I tend to burn calories quickly. However, I also do try to maintain my weight as much as I can - I never use any special diets, but I try to watch what I eat - more portion control than anything else- and I do try to make sure I exercise when I can.
But I find it hurtful when people make these types of sarcastic comments. I do not make the opposite type of comments about people who are overweight, and it seems to be the common consensus that, if you make those types of comments about overweight people, it is insensitive. But to make sarcastic comments about naturally skinny people seems to be OK - why? To make us feel guilty? Is it our fault that our system is the way that it is, any more than it's the fault of an overweight person that their system is the way that it is?
The issue I want to address is this: Does anyone else find themselves being disrespected, or treated unkindly, because they are skinny? I have always been "petite" - about 5 foot 4, and have never in my life weighed more than 125 pounds soaking wet (I battled & survived cancer over a decade ago and, since then, have not weighed more than 115...)
Anyway, my point being that, throughout my life, I have heard all kinds of condescending, petty comments from other females (including friends) due to this. If I went shopping with them, I heard things like "oh, yeah, well YOU could wear that..."(very sarcastic). If I wear something form-fitting, it's comments like "must be nice to be able to wear that!"
Heaven forbid the conversation ever turns to food, diet or exercise! If I make any comment at all, it instantly gets turned on me with things like "oh, this from the person who doesn't HAVE a weight problem!"
It's like they blame me for not being overweight....I am lucky enough to have had parents who were never overweight, so I think part of it is genetics...I have a high metabolism, so I tend to burn calories quickly. However, I also do try to maintain my weight as much as I can - I never use any special diets, but I try to watch what I eat - more portion control than anything else- and I do try to make sure I exercise when I can.
But I find it hurtful when people make these types of sarcastic comments. I do not make the opposite type of comments about people who are overweight, and it seems to be the common consensus that, if you make those types of comments about overweight people, it is insensitive. But to make sarcastic comments about naturally skinny people seems to be OK - why? To make us feel guilty? Is it our fault that our system is the way that it is, any more than it's the fault of an overweight person that their system is the way that it is?