Ljenkins
22-02-2011, 02:55 AM
Something I have been battling with for quite some time now is feeling like I have totally lost who I am as a person and a loss of my morals.
I remember back when I was 18 in 2008 and even before that I was a very loving, caring person who put unconditional love before anything else and always helped other people and really enjoyed helping. I was more or less just a really happy kid who was really social and loved talking to people and handled social situations really well. I was really into music and listened to it all the time and it was a huge part of who I was. I did eat meat, however if I went a whole day without eating any meat at all I felt proud and felt like it was an accomplishment. I loved who I was.
I went through a rough breakup in 2008 and felt lost after that, I lost a good girlfriend and not having one felt like I had a piece missing from myself. I was in a horrible state of mind after that and was pretty much seeking a relationship from anyone at that point I guess because I missed having a relationship so badly. I eventually met a person on a social networking site via a random friend request and one thing led to another and I got a girlfriend out of it. I think she just wanted a relationship as well and didnt care who it was. It was far from happy, and I was used, abused, and hurt for 3 months that felt like years when I look back at it. While we were together I was doing horrible in school and at work I was doing a very bad job. I became very cold and callous to my family and they did not like having me around anymore. Pretty much this person took the amazing person I was and chewed me up and spit out a pile of ****. This left me in a very dark place and I came out of it with no job because the emotional toll took me from being a top performer to a bottom of the barrel employee and heavy marijuana usage because thats all we would do together unfortunatley. I was never one to want to do drugs before but It just happened. Fortunately that was all I did and never let myself go down the path of the harder things.
We split up in early 2009. After that I was left emotionally and spiritually battered and bruised. I didn't want another girlfriend for a while and I just tried to live my life on my own and on my own terms. From then in 2009 to late 2010 I just lived alone. I lost touch with many of my friends (a large amount of whom I've since reconnected with). I pretty much just sat around smoking pot and just wasted away. I ended up gaining about 100 pounds and didn’t care what I ate and got horribly out of shape. The days just flowed on by and weeks became days to me. It was depressing and I eventually grew tired of it but had no idea how to escape from my self-made prison.
Eventually I grew tired of this and sought out social situations again. I signed up for Facebook ( yeah years late, I know this, I hear about it every day) and a popular dating site (not expecting anything to happen) I ended up meeting someone on said dating site (story is on soulmate / TF forum) and my life changed literally at the blink of an eye. I’m 98% sure this person is my twin and ever since meeting them my life has just improved dramatically. When we are together I don’t feel like I have any flaws and I absolutely love who I am. She’s me if I was born as a girl. But when we aren’t together I still feel a lot like I’m still not quite myself. Sure I am far more social and my family life has improved dramatically, even better than before this all happened, however I still feel like I am missing myself, I guess from being in my self-made prison for so long. I miss being skinny and in shape and I feel emotionally and spiritually burnt out from all I have gone through. My twin and I have a strong connection however she feels the connection far more than I do and I feel that it is part of my emotional burn out. I have lost a lot of my spiritual connections and feel so unconnected to things of spirit and it really hurts. When things happen in life that I should feel excited for I just don’t. I mean yeah, I feel great when nice things happen in life but I don’t appear as happy as I should. I guess the point is I’m emotionally and spiritually burnt out and would like some advice and how to get myself back.
I remember back when I was 18 in 2008 and even before that I was a very loving, caring person who put unconditional love before anything else and always helped other people and really enjoyed helping. I was more or less just a really happy kid who was really social and loved talking to people and handled social situations really well. I was really into music and listened to it all the time and it was a huge part of who I was. I did eat meat, however if I went a whole day without eating any meat at all I felt proud and felt like it was an accomplishment. I loved who I was.
I went through a rough breakup in 2008 and felt lost after that, I lost a good girlfriend and not having one felt like I had a piece missing from myself. I was in a horrible state of mind after that and was pretty much seeking a relationship from anyone at that point I guess because I missed having a relationship so badly. I eventually met a person on a social networking site via a random friend request and one thing led to another and I got a girlfriend out of it. I think she just wanted a relationship as well and didnt care who it was. It was far from happy, and I was used, abused, and hurt for 3 months that felt like years when I look back at it. While we were together I was doing horrible in school and at work I was doing a very bad job. I became very cold and callous to my family and they did not like having me around anymore. Pretty much this person took the amazing person I was and chewed me up and spit out a pile of ****. This left me in a very dark place and I came out of it with no job because the emotional toll took me from being a top performer to a bottom of the barrel employee and heavy marijuana usage because thats all we would do together unfortunatley. I was never one to want to do drugs before but It just happened. Fortunately that was all I did and never let myself go down the path of the harder things.
We split up in early 2009. After that I was left emotionally and spiritually battered and bruised. I didn't want another girlfriend for a while and I just tried to live my life on my own and on my own terms. From then in 2009 to late 2010 I just lived alone. I lost touch with many of my friends (a large amount of whom I've since reconnected with). I pretty much just sat around smoking pot and just wasted away. I ended up gaining about 100 pounds and didn’t care what I ate and got horribly out of shape. The days just flowed on by and weeks became days to me. It was depressing and I eventually grew tired of it but had no idea how to escape from my self-made prison.
Eventually I grew tired of this and sought out social situations again. I signed up for Facebook ( yeah years late, I know this, I hear about it every day) and a popular dating site (not expecting anything to happen) I ended up meeting someone on said dating site (story is on soulmate / TF forum) and my life changed literally at the blink of an eye. I’m 98% sure this person is my twin and ever since meeting them my life has just improved dramatically. When we are together I don’t feel like I have any flaws and I absolutely love who I am. She’s me if I was born as a girl. But when we aren’t together I still feel a lot like I’m still not quite myself. Sure I am far more social and my family life has improved dramatically, even better than before this all happened, however I still feel like I am missing myself, I guess from being in my self-made prison for so long. I miss being skinny and in shape and I feel emotionally and spiritually burnt out from all I have gone through. My twin and I have a strong connection however she feels the connection far more than I do and I feel that it is part of my emotional burn out. I have lost a lot of my spiritual connections and feel so unconnected to things of spirit and it really hurts. When things happen in life that I should feel excited for I just don’t. I mean yeah, I feel great when nice things happen in life but I don’t appear as happy as I should. I guess the point is I’m emotionally and spiritually burnt out and would like some advice and how to get myself back.