Justme1981
02-06-2016, 02:15 AM
OK, I value many of you on here and many of you have great wisdom and insight or may relate to what I write. So, please do respond.
The point I am trying to come to terms with now is a thought I had, which is, "Not trying to change the world or save the world is respecting, truly respecting everyone's decision." To elaborate, what I mean by this is truly respecting and loving people is accepting the decision they make, even if you know they are harmful or bad for themselves and everyone else.
It's a way to keep my sanity at this point but it should be more, maybe it's just an excuse but I really think this is a lesson God wants me to learn no matter how painful it is to me. Just as an example, I am very worried the direction the world is heading and I'm especially, especially shocked that many people don't see it or are contributing to it and they just can't be reasoned with; they have to experience it for themselves. But, if I truly loved and respected them I wouldn't try to intervene, just let them make the decision they are going to make and let them learn the only way they know how. Again, even if it harms the rest of us, we are all going through it to learn. To learn how to love people who make bad decisions and to learn how to cope with their bad decisions instead of just hating them or othering them. If this doesn't make sense ask.
I consciously know this is a lesson for me, but it's a hard lesson and it makes me feel cynical and jaded -- I'm very afraid of becoming cynical and jaded, I think that is the height of the wrong turn to take. So, to avoid becoming cynical and jaded I always feel the need to rage at God. I feel it is better to love people with an open heart and hate God for putting them through this while, while, while keeping me safe then love God and hate people (I see this tendency too many times with certain religious people, we love God but we don't love people).
Again, God has given me everything. He has shown me miracles, he has protected me, and he has helped me live a comfortable safe life. I've had many, many, many challenges and I have not had a privileged easy life but, but, but I've weathered it with such love and understanding. As I tell me nephews, this life of mine I would not have it any other way; I have grown and learned so much that I would not want to experience it or have it differently. Again, I grew up poor, went to an expensive school, became a researcher, moved my parents into a nice middle class community, developed my mental illness, struggled with it and employment, prayed, prayed, prayed, had amazing spiritual experiences, and now I live a peaceful life where I have everything I want and need. So, God, has been there for me and I am grateful.
Again, forgive me if it seems like I am being religious and not spiritual. It could be I have done this things called life so many times I know how to weather it. Where younger souls are more reactive to the pains in their life. It could be, as I have been told by mediums, that I have done this life so many times I know how to game it, how to get by and we will all learn that with experience. It could also be that if everyone had more experience to pain and suffering they would know how to weather it, be more open to help from the other side, and come out of it like me, safe and with gratitude...but it takes a little bit of spiritual maturity to get there and we will all get there one day. It could be I am just missing that if I know how to live life it is because I am older and they are younger, so I should love them just like I love my nephews and my parents love me...even if this people are of all physical ages, but spiritually they are young.
It felt better to write that. Does anyone relate? Is anyone learning this lesson? Has anyone already learned this lesson? What do others think?
The idea I struggle with, "Loving others is not trying to save the world or them, it is accepting their choices and decisions they make even if they are harmful and still loving them."
The point I am trying to come to terms with now is a thought I had, which is, "Not trying to change the world or save the world is respecting, truly respecting everyone's decision." To elaborate, what I mean by this is truly respecting and loving people is accepting the decision they make, even if you know they are harmful or bad for themselves and everyone else.
It's a way to keep my sanity at this point but it should be more, maybe it's just an excuse but I really think this is a lesson God wants me to learn no matter how painful it is to me. Just as an example, I am very worried the direction the world is heading and I'm especially, especially shocked that many people don't see it or are contributing to it and they just can't be reasoned with; they have to experience it for themselves. But, if I truly loved and respected them I wouldn't try to intervene, just let them make the decision they are going to make and let them learn the only way they know how. Again, even if it harms the rest of us, we are all going through it to learn. To learn how to love people who make bad decisions and to learn how to cope with their bad decisions instead of just hating them or othering them. If this doesn't make sense ask.
I consciously know this is a lesson for me, but it's a hard lesson and it makes me feel cynical and jaded -- I'm very afraid of becoming cynical and jaded, I think that is the height of the wrong turn to take. So, to avoid becoming cynical and jaded I always feel the need to rage at God. I feel it is better to love people with an open heart and hate God for putting them through this while, while, while keeping me safe then love God and hate people (I see this tendency too many times with certain religious people, we love God but we don't love people).
Again, God has given me everything. He has shown me miracles, he has protected me, and he has helped me live a comfortable safe life. I've had many, many, many challenges and I have not had a privileged easy life but, but, but I've weathered it with such love and understanding. As I tell me nephews, this life of mine I would not have it any other way; I have grown and learned so much that I would not want to experience it or have it differently. Again, I grew up poor, went to an expensive school, became a researcher, moved my parents into a nice middle class community, developed my mental illness, struggled with it and employment, prayed, prayed, prayed, had amazing spiritual experiences, and now I live a peaceful life where I have everything I want and need. So, God, has been there for me and I am grateful.
Again, forgive me if it seems like I am being religious and not spiritual. It could be I have done this things called life so many times I know how to weather it. Where younger souls are more reactive to the pains in their life. It could be, as I have been told by mediums, that I have done this life so many times I know how to game it, how to get by and we will all learn that with experience. It could also be that if everyone had more experience to pain and suffering they would know how to weather it, be more open to help from the other side, and come out of it like me, safe and with gratitude...but it takes a little bit of spiritual maturity to get there and we will all get there one day. It could be I am just missing that if I know how to live life it is because I am older and they are younger, so I should love them just like I love my nephews and my parents love me...even if this people are of all physical ages, but spiritually they are young.
It felt better to write that. Does anyone relate? Is anyone learning this lesson? Has anyone already learned this lesson? What do others think?
The idea I struggle with, "Loving others is not trying to save the world or them, it is accepting their choices and decisions they make even if they are harmful and still loving them."